Listen. Quietly listening can work wonders. Listen to the person who wants to be forgiven. Learn to accept an apology without bitterness. Forgiveness opens the path to a better and meaningful communication. Learn to apologize and then to forgive yourself. Give yourself a chance to improve, build self-respect and be a better person.
When an individual deprives another or himself and in the process hurts himself or the other person, retribution is usually sought after by the person who is hurt. Retribution is not only outwards, it can also be inwards. People hurt themselves because of guilt. However, retribution can be averted through forgiveness via atonement or repentance for the violation(s) committed.
The law of the universe listens to “apology” and our ability to forgive. Our inability to apologize or forgive will only create the same results for our actions.
The inability to forgive is caused by disconnection. Be wary of those who seek forgiveness through empty apologies or those who apologize but aren’t willing to be accountable. Also be wary of those who preach forgiveness to be the responsibility of the offended. Remembering the offense without hatred is the key. But that is not forgiveness. It is an act of prudence. It is healthy. It allows the victim to move on without the burden of hate. Remember, forgiveness can only be possible through apology and atonement.
“Add-ons and comments”:
From a reader on Facebook:
“However part of forgiveness is that one cannot be around that person anymore. Or the forgiveness becomes foolishness. “
“There are exceptions. You or Your loved one can make a foolish mistake that will hurt each other and break you apart. Apology and Forgiveness most of the time will patch things up and make a stronger bond. The scar or patch will remain as a reminder of your mistake. “