Every single being has an inherent need to dominate. Survival triggers the need for dominance. The desire for dominance is as strong as the instinct to survive. Although some people have diminished their quest for dominance, most likely due to previous failures at the attempt. But their desire is still there and is only hidden away. Just a little spark will awaken the desire.
When you want to succeed, you want to dominate. When you are in a competition, you want to dominate. When you want to get promoted and improve your earning capacity you want to dominate. Even just to get a piece of the action, you need to dominate. However, dominance must be tempered with the principles and guidelines of Universal Stewardship. Dominance without kindness and respect is the mode of the bully.
What do the religions of the world do to gain more followers? They build on dominance. What do countries do to build their prosperity? They dominate. What do corporations do to corner the market? They negotiate to dominate. Those who can’t dominate on their own, form alliances. Those who realize that dominance is not sustainable learn to cooperate. However, once prosperity is achieved via cooperation or alliance, somehow, greed has its way to bring back dominance to the surface.
The combination of trade, power and influence are the tools in building dominance.
Trading in simply a form of an exchange. Depending on supply and demand, trading will require negotiation and bargaining. Once one side feels that it has the upper hand, then the idea of dominance creeps in. The quest for dominion via trade, power and influence always linger. It never goes away.
Universal Stewardship does not advocate any government or any religion. However, we do insist that government must be kept separate form religions or any ideologies. We ask our followers to do their duty to God and their country and follow the principles and the guidelines of universal stewardship.
The order of things are as follows: God, self, country(tribe),
religion(ideology). Let us not ever forget that. Universal Stewardship
is not about religion or country. It is about God’s creation.
As mentioned by the founder of Universal Stewardship, Franklin H.
Maletsky, “Let there be freedom of religion, but keep religion separate
from government. A country that bows down to the laws of religion will
one day be governed by religion.”
Guilt and Shame are emotions. We need emotion. We are humans. Guilt and Shame are associated with fear. The fear of rejection, the fear of not belonging, the fear of depriving someone or being deprived, the fear of cheating or being cheated by the person we love drives this feeling of guilt and shame.
The need for accountability is strong in humans. Guilt is a personal self-conscious emotion generated from the individual’s thoughts, words, and deeds. Whenever we realize that we knowingly deprived someone who did not deserve deprivation, we feel that we have done something wrong and somehow yearn to have it corrected and this is “guilt” in action.
Shame on the other hand is a self-inflicted emotion. Shame is wake up call. Shame erases vanity. Shame makes an individual focus on himself as a failure (in public). Shame diminishes a person’s self-esteem towards others. Through guilt and shame the spiritual leader was able to build his group of followers.
Why do children feel ashamed? Why do they sometimes feel
uncomfortable to step up and be recognized? Why are some children more
sheepish than others? These behaviors are developed behaviors during the
formative years of the child. It is true that there are children who
are not as aggressive or as outgoing as others. But this has nothing to
do with negative feelings or behaviors that a child has developed. Lack
of discipline and education or too much of both can create these
negative behavior. A child must grow with love, prudence, respect,
kindness, gratitude, apology and forgiveness.
Live like a child. A
child does not think about death. A child looks forward to life.
A child is always
longing to belong, to have friends and to be happy. A child craves to
mature. So grow in prosperity and security. Be mature and embrace the
meaning of maturity.
Do not live in fear
of rejection. Share your happiness, prosperity and abundance. Be
nice. Be kind. As you exit this corporeal life, leave something
behind of yourself for posterity, for others to grow and learn from.
The greatest advise came from Jesus Christ: “Love one another as I have loved you.” This is easier said than done. Most people do not even understand what this “love” is, that Christ was talking about. However, we are humans. We have an instinctive need to bond. We reach out to belong. We may not understand it, but we crave for this unity.
Here is an acronym CORU, that may help: Care, Openness, Respect, and Understanding.
These four words can help simplify Christ’s advise and guide the individual towards loving someone and be one of the stewards of the universe.
- Care: If you care for something, someone, an idea or anything, you pay serious attention or consideration to doing, working or relating with it correctly to avoid hurting the individual, damaging the object, or putting it at risk. If you care, you are nicer, you are kinder. A young child responds to emotions as we all do. Be nice.
- Openness: If you are open or transparent, you avoid cheating or lying, you avoid secrecy or concealment. Do not make the assumption that your opinion is not valid. Voice it out with respect. Your are being straight forward or frank. Listen to both sides of the story before you conclude. Communicate with an open attitude and never take the other person for granted. A smile on your face makes it easier for others to open up. The book of wisdom: Job 13:5 has been taken out of context: “Oh, that you would altogether be silent! This for you would be wisdom.” Silence (tranquility) is a great way to communicate with God. However, we are humans. Our senses must be invigorated with words, touch or gesture. Open up. Communicate.
- Respect: GIVE RESPECT. DO NOT EXPECT RESPECT. “Respect is to be earned, only if lost once given.” If everybody is expecting respect, how can there be respect for one another? On the other hand, if everybody gives respect, there will be no need to expect it. The only time that respect needs to be earned is when the respect that was kindly given was disrespectfully lost. Anything done without respect is done either for the money, for a reward, as an obligation, out of tolerance, was told to, was forced to, was coerced to, or for vanity.
- Understanding: To have compassion, patience, and sensitivity, for the action or words of the other person. To listen and comprehend, to communicate. To be prudent before reacting. Sometimes the person you care for may have made a mistake per your perception, but before you react or conclude try to understand the reason for her/his actions. That is why openness is important.
CORU must be tempered with attitude. Attitude is developed from childhood. Your past, your perception of your surroundings and events contributes to the development of your attitude. Attitude becomes embedded in our personality. People tell you to develop a positive attitude. “Don’t be negative” is what everybody hears when an opinion is contradictory. It is good to think about a positive attitude but it is not easy to do. So it is best to develop and “open” attitude. Start the day with kindness to yourself and others. Kindness to others can be in the simplest way of showing respect for the opinions of others or by talking in a softer tone of voice and not condescending. Allow others to express themselves without intimidation.
Learn to walk away from disagreements even from bullies. But if a
bully insists to be abusive (verbal, writing, gesture, or physical) and
you are more than capable, then by all means give the bully an attitude
Practice CORU to be able to love and ultimately be HAPPY.
Our world, mother earth, is always at peace. The universe is always at peace. Our environment may seem chaotic at times. But that is because we do not understand all the creations of God. Humanity and sentient beings create chaos among themselves. Fights among individuals and people will never be avoided. Fights within a country can be avoided with prosperity. Fights among nations and worlds can be avoided through negotiations with diplomacy, prudence and a great security and defense system. Plundering and exploitation are mostly prompted by greed and the need to have material prosperity. Sometimes it is prompted by the need for survival.
The path to peace is through prosperity with accountability and security. An individual who has achieved responsible prosperity is seldom “wanting” or greedy. This is also true with the family, community, country, world and the universe. However, peace must always be protected. Defense or security must always be maintained. There is always a bully around the corner who will try to take what you have. We must also protect ourselves from natural disasters. Security guarantees survival and prosperity.
Any individual, organization, community, or country who gets complacent and leaves its values and prosperity unguarded will one day be taken down by the greedy, the depriver, or natural disaster.